I knew a weekend can do some wonders...and I had a great one. Thank you so much for all the well wishes. I sometimes am amazed at the thoughtfulness of others, I'm so thankful that those people are my readers. My head is above water and it's getting a lot easier to tread. To explain some...I was just having a very stressful week at work with a lot of deadlines and a lot of new things to learn and deliver on top of the deadlines. I was working all day and late. On top of it...I just felt like my home life was getting out of control. Piles of laundry, my house being a construction zone, not enough time to spend with my husband and dog, bills not paid because I was so busy and kept forgetting about them, errands not being run...blah, blah, blah...and then to top it off, I found out my "real" father has been diagnosed with stage two lung cancer and is dyeing*. Yeah, I just kinda of tossed that one in there. I even contemplated not saying it. But after all the support you guys sent, I kinda felt obligated to tell you. After all, we are all friends, even if some of you, I haven't met face to face.
Now, there is another factor in all this, see, my "real" dad isn't really the nicest of people and certainly isn't the best of fathers, and we have had quite a horrible relationship for over half my life. When my parents divorced, he basically abandoned us and ran off halfway across the country and got remarried. He then took on his new family, and never made much of an effort to take care of the one he had. There is a whole lot of other crap that can be said, but the quick story is, all of our attempts of reconciliation of our problems have never been fruitful. Mainly, he doesn't want the responsibility of being a father, and we haven't spoken in the past 7 years.
So now, he's dyeing. I have felt like he's been dead for the past seven years. Of course I'm sad, after all he is my Dad and my memories of him in my childhood are nothing but good. I wish he was healthy and living a happy life. I dealt with all the pain and resentment a long time ago. And as selfish as it may sound, I don't want to go back to relive it, once again, after several times being put through it by him. At this point, I have decided that I will not see him. My decision is a tough one, but the right one for me. My only guilt is for my brother, who still sorta has a relationship with him, and will have to be dealing with this on his own. I'm torn...but so far, I'm sticking with my decision. I know, I sound like cold-hearted bitch...but really, there is a lot to this story.
OK...off this subject...
Remember I said my house is a construction zone...It is. My wonderful and very talented husband is putting in a built in book case in our basement. Then we are going to finish remodeling the rest of the basement after it is completed. This isn't just a little bookcase. It is taking up an entire wall. So much so that I can't get a complete picture of it. Though the remodeling won't take much since it is already a finished basement, but since our house is so small, any disruption of crap piled up in the house, only means it has to be shifted into currently lived in space.
But here's a picture before and what he's done so far:
So just more paint and cabinet doors...and then all my books and crap will have a home!
Also, especially for Kris, this is what I woke up to this morning...
Marley wasn't too happy that her view outside the fence was obstructed:
After just waking up, cold, wet snow wasn't exactly what she considered fun, she was quick to come back in after one quick trip to the gate, a pee, and back:
I swear, tomorrow's post will be much happier!
*Added later: Oh my goodness Beth, you have me laughing so hard right now...First it's I forget the "e" now I've been typing "dyeing" so much I can't type it the other way! Good for you catching that!!!! Dead wool and a father that dyes! :)